The Way to a Wonderful Life Weekly Message, Rev-Bates

          Throughout my years of spiritual work and research, it has become very clear to me that by and large there are people who really don’t love themselves. Far too many people fail to find a great value within themselves and this lack of feeling important or valued sets the stage for difficulties and struggles to dominate their mind. We must find a way to realize our self-worth in order to feel worthy to accept a greater good in our life experiences.

        Back in my days at the Hollywood Church for Today, Dr. Domenic Polifrone presented the congregation with a program that had the purpose of helping people to feel important. “Who I Am Is Important” was the phrase used. It included encouraging words and tags that could be worn with the words imprinted on them. It became a popular program and one that gave people an uplift to their self-esteem. But like most programs, once it ended, people generally fell back to old habits of finding fault with themselves.

            "In order to receive, we must feel that we deserve. Our subconscious scripts must know that we are worthy of receiving our stated intentions. In order to do this, we must become “aware” of past conditioning received from childhood. We must become “aware” that other people’s opinions do not define who we are. We must erase those mental scripts that limit and prevent us from growth. We must learn to love ourselves unconditionally and know that we are perfect just the way we are.
         Here is a wonderful exercise from “The Science of Mind” by Ernest Holmes; one in which he claims the mystics used to teach their pupils self-love.
          Cross your hands over your chest, like you are holding yourself, and say “Wonderful, Wonderful, Wonderful Me!”   According to Holmes, this will teach you to “Act as though I Am and I will Be.”   This exercise, done repeatedly, implants a positive seed of thought into your subconscious.
            Repeat this exercise as often as you like. At first it may feel a bit awkward but keep doing it until it feels comfortable and brings a smile to your face." – from the “The Master Shift” (The Truth Is Simple), Christine Seagal was the author of this piece.

            On the drive to my godson’s school, he noticed a bumper sticker with the words “God Loves Me” in bold letters. He asked me if that was true. I told him that it could be, but no matter who someone's god may be, their god can only love them as much as they love themselves. He asked me why? I responded that everything that we believe and feel about ourselves is mirrored back to us, including love. If we love, truly love, and respect ourselves, we shall find love and respect coming to us from others. If we rely on others, including a god, to validate us as worthy of love, then we may find ourselves becoming very disappointed.

            Dr. Robert Bitzer wrote something helpful in this direction in his book, “Dominant Mind.” He wrote, “we cannot change our point of view until, as Emerson said, “we can be shown a new idea to command our own.” A person dominated by poverty, no matter what they receive and spend, will feel poor. They will remain in poverty, because they won’t have the freedom of abundant spirit manifesting as what they really are. Cheapness will invariably manifest. But they can change their thought. There is no divine power or mind that says they should be limited or that they should lack. Where is the lack? It is in their thinking. They think and believe in lack.”

           This “lack” reflects their lack of self-worth and love for themselves. Too often, this lack of self-worth and self-love, is due to people looking outside themselves for validation. In this country a few days ago, October 11^th, was National Coming Out Day along with Columbus Day and Indigenous Peoples Day. In the New York Times that day I read an article about a 48 year old man who was “coming out” as gay. In other words, he had lived the majority of his life hiding who he really was. Not only did he hide this truth of him from others, he went through years of self-depreciation because of it. Shocking as it may seem to many, he became, during this time, a Christian Evangelical. Aye Yai Yai!! At first I felt kind of sad for him, but then I didn’t. He chose to hide his true self. Chose to allow the world to make him believe that he was unlovable. Hiding his sexuality perhaps made him feel safer, more accepted, but the price he paid was in low-self-esteem and unworthiness. Loving ourselves is key to loving Life. His life was one filled with deceit and shame. Not exactly a life to be loved.

            The great Louise Hay declared “there is no god watching your genitals.” This may appear course to some, but it is the truth. It stems from the man-made false idea that there is a god watching our every move and keeping score on whether we are “naughty or nice” … wait that’s Santa Claus!

Cross your hands over your chest, like you are holding yourself, and say ...                   “Wonderful, Wonderful, Wonderful Me!”

Keep the Faith!
Rev-Bates
(Reverend Dr. Henry Lee Bates)



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