At one time I was acquainted with two women who were very different
from each other. One woman, which I will call Cynthia (not her
real name), was very stylish and very slim and was very much in touch
with the idea that what she believed for herself she could
accomplish. She was attracted to jewelry. Gold and
diamonds were attractive to her and she attracted men in her life who
could give her both. She was not one to concern herself with
what other people thought of her nor did she waste any time thinking
that she didn't deserve the things that she loved to have for her
own. Yet, she expressed an innate kindness that often
surprised the people who knew her only on a surface level. Her
deeply felt empathy and kindness became apparent to me as I observed
her relationship with the other woman.
The other woman, who
I will call Donna (not her real name), was in an abusive marriage,
both mentally and physically and was going through a divorce during
this time of my observation. She was overweight and wore clothes
that were second-hand gifts from her sister none of which suited
her. To say she was frumpy looking would sadly have been a
compliment. She displayed all the personality traits of someone
with a deep-seated inferiority complex, indecisive and emotional, she
could not or would not make decisions for herself. Why she and
Cynthia became friends was never clear to me but I knew that on a
subconscious level there was unconsciously a healer and someone
desiring to be healed.
Cynthia gave Donna
the gift of kindness. She never spoke to her or about her in a
negative way. When Donna would cry or express her feelings of
unworthiness, Cynthia would quietly listen. As Donna began to
realize that Cynthia wasn't put off by her emotional outbursts or
self-depreciations, she began to listen to what Cynthia would tell
her. Cynthia told her in simple terms that she could only have
what she wanted the most.
The three of us went
to dinner one evening at an upscale restaurant and Donna couldn't
decide what to order. Cynthia gently said to her, order what
will get you what you want the most and I will give you an
example. Cynthia said she was going to order one of the salads
on the menu and a glass of wine. To which Donna asked, "you
are only having a salad?" "Yes," Cynthia said and
then she directed Donna's attention to an attractive man at a table
across the room. Cynthia caught his eye and boldly smiled at him
... the man smiled back and with a twinkling in his eye he winked at
her. And that, Cynthia said is what she wants the most ...
"to be attractive to handsome men." And, she said, in
order to have what she wants the most, everything that she does must
be done with what she wants most in mind.
Let's think about these
words from José
Silva and Philip Miele's classic book, "The Silva Mind Control
the will and the imagination are in conflict, it is always the
imagination that wins," wrote Emile Coué.
If you think you want to give up a bad habit,
chances are you are deceiving yourself. If you really wanted to
give it up, it would fade away on its own. What you should want
more than the habit itself is the benefit of giving it up. Once
you learn to want that benefit strongly enough, you will become free f
the "unwanted" habit.
Thinking about your habit and firmly
resolving to give it up may bind you more tightly to it. It is a
little like firmly resolving to go to sleep; the very firmness of your
resolve can keep you awake."
contemplation and visualization, we can realize what it is that we
want the most. For some people they will know quickly, others
may require more time and consistent practice in order to reach that
deeper level of mind that already knows what we want the most.
What we are seeking, is Intelligence. And that which we want the
most must be aligned with Intelligence and when it is, we get
it. Whatever it may be it must never be at someone else's
expense ... Intelligence, which is derived from G-d, Infinite Spirit,
is always for the good for everyone. This is a universal,
eternal and immutable truth. It is simple to understand but for
some people the ego-emotional aspect of their thoughts and wishes will
not let Intelligence be dominant in their mind.
We cannot manipulate Intelligence
no matter how determined our emotional demands may be. Just the
thought of taking something that is not ours or hurting someone in
some way will obstruct the very power that we are seeking to work for
us, through us. St. Augustine stated this so simply when
he said, "G-d
loves each of us as if there were only one of us."
This is an illustration of universal law ... the law of
Intelligence. And we can align our mind with this Intelligence
by rejecting the world's concepts of comparisons and
Let's study these words
from the great metaphysician, Thomas Troward: "My
mind is a center of Divine operation. The Divine operation is always
for expansion and fuller expression, and this means the production of
something beyond what has gone before, something entirely new, not
included in past experiences, though proceeding out of it. Therefore,
since the Divine cannot change it's inherit nature, it must operate in
the same manner with me; consequently, in my own special world, of
which I am the center, it will move forward to produce new conditions,
always in advance of any that have gone before."
What we want the most ... we get ... because the
fact that we want it the most causes it to be ours.
SO IT IS!
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